Writing Binary Data To Database Only To Refrence A File Location?

Hey everyone I've got this question that has me stuck for the last few days but its an important part of my website.....What I am trying to do is basicly have a user be able to upload a file, have that uploaded file plus some other info automaticly display on other parts of my site, and have a different user eventually be able to download that file....
I have thought about allowing the file upload as a BLOB but still cannot find a proper way to execute this using VB, plus I have heard that this way of doing it is not reccommeneded cause databases were not designed to store large files like this, lots of articles recommened having the file upload to a Folder on your server then get the binary data for the file that can be placed in a database to refrence that particular file.....Well this also proves to be a lot harder then said here is what I got so far (written in C#) protected void UploadBtn_Click(object sender, EventArgs e)
{
if (FileUpLoad1.HasFile)
{

FileUpLoad1.SaveAs(@"C:Documents and SettingsAdamMy DocumentsVisual Studio 2005ProjectsWebsiteFiles" + FileUpLoad1.FileName);
Label1.Text = "File Uploaded: " + FileUpLoad1.FileName;
}
else
{
Label1.Text = "No File Uploaded.";
}
}

and here is the asp part of the code that goes with it<asp:FileUpLoad id="FileUpLoad1" runat="server" />

<asp:Button id="UploadBtn" Text="Upload File" OnClick="UploadBtn_Click" runat="server" Width="105px" />

<asp:Label ID="Label1" runat="server" Text=""></asp:Label>
 Now from what I know is I need to get the binary of the file which I have read you can do with the Page.Request.Files statement but again not sure how I would impliment this.  Does anyone have any suggestions on which way I should take when dealing with this should I try and just use the BLOB method or use the binary refrence method? and if so how would I impliment this, heck even some good tutorials on the subject would be great... Thanks.....Adam